Further to my recent blog about tiger mums, check out this rebuttal from Samantha Leese


Tiger mothers?

I breathed a big sigh of relief last August when I got my oldest child into university. Oops … did I say I got? I mean she got herself into university – she studied hard, met the grades, wrote her own personal statement, and ticked all the right boxes. But I was definitely there hovering in the background, trying to stay quiet but still offering nuggets of wisdom, nagging about deadlines, and spellchecking.

I certainly don’t remember my parents doing this for me. In fact, I don’t think they even knew which universities I’d applied to until I received the response letters.

So am I one of today’s “tiger mothers”? With all the controversy that Amy Chua’s book has created recently I have been questioning myself (I even started an arts school because I thought my children weren’t getting enough creativity in their lives, for goodness sake) and other mums I know have been questioning themselves too … It’s a competitive world out there and it’s our duty to provide our children with the best opportunities … Everyone else is doing it so I can’t be the parent who holds my child back … Let them enjoy their childhoods and stop the pressure … We’ve been going round in circles.

Moderation is usually the best policy. But what is moderation? Do we accept our children for who they are and leave them to find their own way? Or do they not know “who they are” and need a guiding hand (or strong push) in the right direction for their own good?

What do you think? I’d love to know.